So there is this huge debate going on in the feminist blogosphere. It started at Twisty's and has hopschotched all fricken over. I weighed in at Twisty's originally and then got caught in the "holy fuck I have to work 18 hours a day for the next month" mode and didn't realize it had become such a big fucking deal.
What is the big fucking deal about?
Blow jobs. Or specifically, whether or not the act of delivering a blow job is an act of submission and humiliation to the patriarchy.
Those of you who know me in real life know that I am one of the most outspoken supporters of any act designed to lead to orgasm, and my blow job skills are legendary. I do not consider it an act of submission as long as I get to choose to do it. And I get a big fucking sense of power in getting anyone- male or female- off. It's not a submissive thing at all to make another person's knees shake and head explode. It is not a submissive act to willingly hold someone's most sensitive parts between your teeth. And anyone who doesn't understand the power received by giving someone else an orgasm is a selfish lover who I would never let in my bed. I wouldn't be insulted by someone yelling "fuck yeah" and giving me a high five after they had just given me the be-all-end-all-multiple- multiples orgasm (someday I'll tell ya all about why I call it going to Switzerland- but another time). They should feel fucking awesome.
And I feel the same way about blow jobs. If I can make someone fall at my feet and stutter incoherently for a good long time afterwards- I feel fucking awesome.
This is not to say it is a requirement, but I would never fuck a guy who isn't willing to go down on me with enthusiasm regularly. Some guys don't enjoy blow jobs. Some girls have horrible experiences of being forced to gag on a cock when they didn't want to. Neither one should be required to do something that gives them no pleasure and no one should ever do it because they think they fucking have to. But I will be damned if someone is going to tell me that I shouldn't like sex or a sex act because I am a girl. Whether they mean to or not- the anti-blow job brigade is just as much a tool of the fucking patriarchy as the anti- sex before marriage people. It's just one more excuse to make girls feel bad about doing something they might fucking enjoy.
Yeah- I wrote fucking a lot in this post. I really hate it when people tell me what I should or shouldn't be doing for pleasure. Asswipes.
